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> Overcoming Anger - How to Overcome Anger
The
Problem
"What's
wrong with anger?" some people might ask. Well, as Buddha said, "Anger
is it's own punishment." Anger sets off and releases all kinds of
harmful chemicals (ie. adrenaline) in the body, which puts stress on
the cells that make up the body, which weakens the body and sets one up
for all sorts of illnesses and diseases. Any other negative emotion is
the same. They all have effects and consequences, and this is so that
we hopefully learn that anger is not the proper way to go about things.
Eventually we come to the understanding that negative emotions only
serve a purpose until it's realized that they don't serve a purpose.
Universal
Laws
As
for how to overcome anger, there are several things one could try.
First off, a basic law of the universe is that "Whatever you put your
focus on, you receive more of." In other words, we can't focus on the
negative and somehow expect the opposite to happen. If you're thinking
about overcoming anger, your focus is still on "anger". If you want to
resolve anger, you have to focus on acceptance, forgiveness,
understanding, respect, kindness, and compassion, towards oneself, and
all others without exception. At your own pace of course.
Another
basic law of the universe is that of "resonance". You are, or you
become, whatever you surround yourself with. So as long as you surround
yourself with other negative people, negative situations, negative
places, negative television shows, negative music, etc., you yourself
will be that too. You must adopt positives, and surround yourself with
positives.
Lose
Yourself
It
also helps greatly to work for the benefit of others, at whatever
capacity you're ready and willing to. It's a matter of losing oneself
in the selfless service of others. As a result of losing oneself, the
focus is no longer on oneself and one's problems, and so the problems
dissipate and resolve themselves simply because energy and focus is no
longer supporting and perpetuating them. Not only that, but, that which
supports life is automatically supported because of karma and balance
in the universe. When you look after others, your own needs are
automatically met so there is absolutely no reason to worry about
yourself.
Ego
Games & Finding Peace
The
simple key to cultivating acceptance, forgiveness, and compassion is to
realize that EVERYBODY is suffering from a profound ignorance. This
ignorance is the nature of the human mind. Our minds are literally
unable to tell the difference between truth and falsehood, which is why
everybody has different opinions and beliefs. Out of our unawareness,
we are all innocent. Understanding this, you should be able to forgive
all others and yourself instead of getting angry. Unless one is
Enlightened and has dissolved all thought permanantly, and reached
No-Mind, one is ignorant and unaware of the Truth.
It
also helps
to understand that all those frustrating situations that are "making me
angry" are karma. They are your own past actions, feelings, thoughts,
intentions, opinions, beliefs, concepts, perceptions, views, and
attitudes coming back to you, and they're never going to stop unless
you stop creating those things. Not only that, but, absolutely nothing
makes you angry except your decision to be. It's not situations and
circumstances that make us angry and stressed out. It's how we CHOOSE
to react to those situations, that does. Life is about choices, not
victimization and blame. We're going to repeat this again.. you have to
change your own mind FIRST, and then your so-called "outside"
situations will change accordingly. Your "outside" situations are a
perfect reflection of your past and present "inner" situations. The
inner and the outer are one and the same. There is absolutely no
difference between the two. They are one and the same despite what our
physical senses and brain are telling us.
Realize
that without
the drama loving ego/mind interfering, everything just IS. Nothing
more, nothing less. Just IS. It's necessary to stop judging,
condemning, labeling, placing non-existent irrelevant concepts onto
things, and making something out of nothing. NONE of it is real.
Everything just IS. There is no good or bad, despite what the mind
believes. The universe doesn't need the approval of the human ego to
tell it that it is, or is not, perfect.
"How do I
find
happiness?" you might ask. It's not to be found anywhere. You are
ALREADY happy, complete, whole, perfect, and at complete peace when the
mind and it's irrelevancies are out of the way, in this very moment,
right now, always. It's not a matter of fighting anything. It's always
a matter of letting go. Simply LET GO of everything that obscures "Just
IS".
Nutrition
Proper
nutrition will also help balance emotions because the brain does not
exist separate from the rest of the body. If a person eats "foods" with
no nutritional value, that will be a drain of energy on a person
physically, mentally and emotionally because more energy and resources
are required to process that harmful "nothingness" of a food, than what
is gotten from it. If we were to build a house, we need all the proper
supplies and tools to work with. The cells of the body and brain are no
different. They need all the proper tools and supplies to do their job
as well. Our emotional well-being can improve when we supply the cells
with all the proper energy and resources (nutrients). I personally use
(and sell) a product called FrequenSea with Phytoplankton and
it has
produced some excellent results for many people, but feel free to
choose any of these others on this list of Superfoods,
Supersupplements, and Recommended Products.
Letting
Go
You
might also wish to try prayer/meditation, but with only one request...
"Please help." That's all. Nothing more. Just "help". This is called
surrender. Ask for help and then give your very being, life, and
thought processes to God, Buddha, Self, Life, Truth, Love,
Selflessness, Nature, or whatever else you might want to call it. If
you're truly sick and tired of your current state of existence, it
shouldn't be too difficult to do this. Ask for help but don't expect
anything specific to happen. Just let go. Results are not always
instantaneous, and sometimes a person won't even notice any differences
until much later when they reflect upon how life has changed.
But
perhaps prayer/intention is what led you here in the first place.
Perhaps you've already begun the practice of surrender.